Thursday, May 2, 2013

Questions For the Doula

Tonight is the night we meet with our potential doula. I am SO excited, and in a way shocked that Nate is even open to the idea. Let me preface by saying I met this women during my last pregnancy with Kennedy and she was really the first person to bring hypnobabies to MN, so of course I was drawn to her. For some reason though I couldn't justify the cost. I also had complete confidence in my body and myself that I didn't see the need for one. Now looking back it is one of the biggest mistakes I made was not getting one.

I've decided to study hypnobabies again for this pregnancy because of how amazing it worked during my last one. I think I am more clam 9 months pregnant, then I am on an average day. So it's important to me to have a doula that is knowledgeable in hypno-anesthesia and one that will use the same terms: transition= transformation, the "P" word = pain is a no-no, labor= birthing time, etc. My goodness I sound like such a hippie some times! So i know that I am already sold on the idea of having her present, but the husband...not so much. I've been looking at some different questions to ask and this is a list that I've collaborated.

-What made you become a doula?
-Where/When did you get your training? Are you certified?
-How many births have you attended?
-How many VBACs have you assisted in?
-Have you ever missed a birth?
-Tell me about a birthing experience that was challenging and how you were able to overcome it?
-What are the prenatal/postpartum visits like? What do they entail?
-Do you have a back-up and do I meet her ahead of time?
-What do you do if I am induced or need to have a c/s?
-How does having a doula still allow for a couple to still feel like this is a private event?

So we will see how this goes. During my last birth I had a nurse that was amazing. I think I spoke of her in my birth story. I keep reminding my husband of her and how awesome it would have been to have had her there the whole time. Maybe if I would have had someone trained in rebozo, Kennedy would have been able to get in a better position.

Today we are 18 weeks and 2 days, so I guess that makes this little bean a sweet potato. This little sweet potato has been doing lots of somersaults and finally is starting to give some kicks and pokes. I swear I remember feeling kicks sooner last time, but I also think I'm a lot more active this pregnancy so there isn't as much time to lay around.



Here are Miss K and I this week at the March of Dimes walk. Don't mind my tongue, but it's the only way she would look at the camera and we were solo! We walk for our friends on the team, Devoted to Dylan. Check out their awesome story here!






 

2 comments:

  1. Hope you can convince Nate! AJ did not want to share the room with a doula but I did have one on standby in case the AJ was called out on emergency

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    1. It went well, but like AJ he is such a private man. We are sleeping on it before we make any decisions. I never even had thought about that with having a husband who may not make it! There is an organization for military wives, but I wonder about other professions of service?

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